A personal note from me
This is a very personal post from me, Ivan, and it concerns something I didn’t think I’d ever write about – a dream. I’m not talking ‘dream’ in the sense of a goal, something you want to achieve in the future. No, I’m talking about the kind of dream you have while you’re asleep – the kind of dream I had last night.
In this dream, I was talking to my mother. Now, it’s important that you know, if you don’t already, that my mother died some time ago. I don’t recall the initial topic of our conversation but it soon was turned to one of her favourite hobby-horses. I won’t mention what it was here, but it’s sufficient for you to know that it was a topic on which I disagreed with her at a very fundamental level – and she knew it.
I have never yet met a son who was able to argue in a calm, cogent manner with his mother, even when all the facts and the combined wisdom of the ages show him to be right. I’m afraid I was no pioneer in this field, either. So, in the way that sons do with their mothers, I put my own case ineffectually – and simply dismissed hers.
I also dismissed her from my dream. Without waking, I chastised myself for this thoughtless act and pointed out to myself – still in my dream – that, while dreaming, I had the gift of being able to do something that I shall never again be able to do while awake. Talk to my mother. And I had thrown that gift away. I realised I was analysing what I could do in my dream, while still dreaming and at that point I awoke with my dream hanging heavily over me and knowing that listening to my mother talk of things I profoundly disagree with would be infinitely preferable to the silence that has now fallen between us.
So, why am I telling you this? You can perhaps draw your own conclusions, but I’d say it was to encourage you to seize the day – enjoy what you have and, if a loved one irritates you, remember they’re still a loved one and revel in the fact that you still have them because, in the words of Wayne Coyne, ‘everyone you know, someday, will die’.
We’ll be back soon,